Why I am Still Single?
I am 18, and I am still pathetically single. Never dated anyone. But I am sure that I am straight, because I have crush on girls, be it super popular stars to my social circle.
At this age, I believe I am almost legal. I can watch porn or go clubbing. I don’t think my parents will object if I started dating. The thing is, I can’t find myself dating anyone at this period. The main reason being this; I can’t afford one.
I don’t work part time, other than doing freelance website development (but so far doing it for free for my friends). All my income comes from my family. I get like around RM100 per month from my family. Of course, I don’t have to pay for the rent, food, car petrol, or any house expenses. I use the RM100 to reload my handphone prepaid, to buy things I want like magazines or games, and occasional outing expenses. It’s pretty amazing that I can still survive for so long and even kept some money with RM100 per month, which I believe most teens at my age will be half-dead if their pocket money is only RM100 per month. From certain blog that I read, they’re in secondary school and their pocket money is like RM200 plus, and they rant because it’s not enough! I wonder what more do they need? They’re quite similar to my situation since they’re also staying home like me now.
Right, back to my topic. Just imagine RM70 (after deducting unavoidable prepaid reload) per month to date a girl. Let’s say I only bring my girl out on weekends, that means we will go on a date 8 times per month. RM9 per date. Where can I bring my girl to?
There’s another reason why I am not dating anyone, or have a girlfriend. I am scared that I will neglect my studies once I have a girlfriend. I am so lazy now, I hardly take out my book to studies. I can’t imagine if I have a girlfriend. I believe I will spend my time waiting for my handphone to sound the SMS tone. This happens to my friend in KL studying in UTAR. He was so determine to study hard because he wants to get a scholarship for his degree course next year. And now? According to his housemate, all he is concerned now is his handphone. If this happen to me, I will be wasting my Dad’s money, paying for my education.
If only money is not created. Then, education would be free. Then, dating a girl would be free. Then, I wouldn’t have to sit on the couch, looking at the ceiling, and said to myself, “I am so lonely”.
Going online to find singles is only getting easier and easier nowadays as online dating services not only get more accepted but more powerful.
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November 7th, 2006 at 10:32 pm
[…] EDIT: GeminiGeek somewhat read my mind on what i’m thinking here. […]
November 7th, 2006 at 10:33 pm
That’s why sometimes i love you. You read my mind and posted what i’m trying to sketch and convey before this.
Was thinking of posting on my blog but stopped at the point of start.
November 8th, 2006 at 12:48 am
hurrrmmmm….. u make girls sound so materialistic.
November 8th, 2006 at 1:23 am
Everybody is materialistic. Money makes the our planet turn around
But im not making girls sound materialistic. im just saying dating a girl needs money
November 8th, 2006 at 8:49 pm
So… By what you stated there… Your point is… Girl are a waste of money? Or you haven’t really date a girl before?
The phrase “Love is blind” can really be used now… Find all the answer there
November 8th, 2006 at 10:58 pm
The point is he never dated a girl “YET” because they are expensive.
Materialistic?? Nah, not that girls are materialistic, its that boys are normally more on the losing side on the matter. Boys tend to ‘want’ to give the very best to their ‘girl’ so we somewhat thinks that having a ‘girl’ would be expensive even though his ‘girl’ might not hope for anything from him.
Its the mindset.
November 8th, 2006 at 11:56 pm
@wong: exactly like Subkiller says. He answered the question for me
Anyway, I am not stating anything that says girls are a waste of money, nor implying it. It’s the culture already, dating needs money. In fact, everything needs money, even going to toilet (except boulevard shopping complex’s toilets 
).
@Subkiller: We think alike, don’t we? Hah… looks like you read my mind and reply all the commenters like what I want to say…
Anyway, it’s weird to see girls paying all the “dating expenses” in a date isn’t it?
November 9th, 2006 at 1:23 pm
LOL, when do you want to start a combined blog so we can make millions. ROFL.
November 11th, 2006 at 9:02 am
hmm… well, u better change that mindset if u wanna get a girlfriend. Hehe!
Instead of thinking why u dont have a gf, u should focus on how to get one..
Wanna find out how? Ask me la.. hehe
November 12th, 2006 at 2:49 am
Haha, you and I are pretty similiar then. I also can’t imagine myself dating anybody soon.. not least until I get my own job.
Anyways, it’s much better to enjoy our bachelorhood while it lasts
. You can always find a partner later. Besides… girls our age group are mostly too fun-loving. I prefer the 21+ age bracket… they’re matured already.
November 16th, 2006 at 5:09 pm
Hmmm I can see some good points here, it depends on how you think. Not all guys like to spend tons of money in dating or stuff, and yet not all girls are materialistic by any mean. But in fact, dating costs bomb
As a gentleman, a guy have to pay for basically everything. Just that when you are single, you only pay one movie ticket fee to watch a movie, cost efficient 
I have made a short list for pros and cons as a single:
Pros:
- Nobody stops you from playing DotA all night long.
- You actually have more free time to do your works.
- You can save money from dating/sms’ing for a Wii.
- You can talk to all normal girls like normal.
- Whatever just like the points above.
Cons:
- You will not have superior photo taking skill.
- Feel loneliness and void.
- You will probably like to know some new random girls.
- You will have less time to hang out and have fun with same gender friends.
- Whatever just like the points above.
Oh yeah, and if one just want to save money so never want to start a date, that is not really good but nothing really bad. Money vs love, your choice. My suggestion is, if there is a possibility, go get one and see how will it change your life and mindset. Maybe after some time we can come back to this topic again XD.
*Was bored, and waiting for tons of flames and critics.*
November 28th, 2006 at 1:06 pm
So interesting here.
All I can said is, u haven’t meet the right one that make u crazy.
I am sure if u meet the right one, u don’t care or think about so much. U just go ahead, ur mind will be blank, only her picture, I am sure by that time you don’t want your DotA, u don’t want ur pc or internet, u don’t care about ur streamxy speed, u just want to be with her. That is “Can’t help Falling In Love”
November 30th, 2006 at 8:27 pm
haha..i find out kinda interesting when i read this page
to my bro: my experience is love is not equals to $$
if u really desperate for a gf now my advise is u better concern on studies 1st 
not to say to stop u dating n kao lui but as long as u knw wat u r doin n knw how to plan time 
t-mac: i luv ur pros n cons here…LOL
but let me edit smthg tat u might be wrong…haha
pros:
- nobody stops u playing dota all night long.
how long do u think u can play dota? frm morning till nite? no need sch? no need eat? no need drink? no need bath? no need toilet? bla bla bla…….even not ur gf stops u from dota but i bet there other thg tat stops u too
- more free time do work? do u mean u need to company ur gf 24/7? c’mon dood..gf n wife are totaly different..
- save money? how much do u thk u can save frm dating? n who says n which rules or law state that dating waste $$
- dating or got gf kneot talk to other ‘gals’ friends? wic planet are u from?
cons
- superior taking photo skills? i believe tis is more to individual skill…haha
- loneliness ur totally right
- less time hang out wif frens? u stil can hang out wif frens :happy:
December 20th, 2006 at 1:25 pm
ok look you are ONLY 18. and I can understand that you say you haven’t been with ANYONE,but you are still young. I think maybe you need to just get out there more.
December 22nd, 2006 at 5:25 pm
hi well i think that u are exagerating
you know, as a girl i am not expecting from my boyfriend to spend money on me
all what i want is love and affection which money cannot buy
December 22nd, 2006 at 5:30 pm
well all what i will expect from my boyfriend is love and affection not money which by the way can`t buy it
i am ready to love a guy who doesn`t spend money on me if he is a student
i will love him without measure
December 31st, 2006 at 11:05 pm
[…] A lot happens this year, such as the world cup fever, the news that made Miri popular for a while, I got pulled to a direct sales brainwashing session, and not forgetting the dumb ass that took my blog entry about my gay friend. I also write about why I am still single, and that’s when I got a lot of thoughtful comments, like Love is Blind, and some says that girlfriend maintenance isn’t that costly. Well, maybe I can try my luck in this for the year 2007 […]
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February 25th, 2007 at 3:47 pm
i don’t know why you’re brooding over the issue of being single. i mean, i am, too but it has never become such a great problem to me. you see, if you keep on searching for happiness, it will elude you… but if you can just concentrate on the things around you without worrying about those trivial matters, happiness will find you.
oh and, you still don’t have any girlfriend because you seemed to be a little perfectionist. the way i see it, you’re such an idealistic person who sets standard on how people should or shouldn’t be…and just for the record, not all girls are materialistic because i’m not…i don’t think money makes the world go ’round. yeah sure, with all the cost
of living today, it sure is important but it’s not the vital ingredient that makes a person’s life complete…
April 18th, 2008 at 1:00 am
I wuz surprised 2 read your post. Well, my advice is just be FRIENDLY and BE YOURSELF and
and i’m pretty sure there will be somebody attracted 2 u. =)