He’s Gay, isn’t he?
I think my friend is gay. As in homo gay, not the “happy” gay. As a friend, I am kinda afraid of him. I am straight, he’s gay. What if he likes me??? Oh my… I am so scared 
So, on what reason I think that he’s gay? He denies it… Here’s some reason to support my er… assumption…
1. He browses guy’s profile in Friendster.
No matter how lame that person is, a straight person usually browses the profile of their opposite sex. I do look at cute girls in friendster once in a while (call me lame… :P), but heck, I am not like him, looking for handsome guys. I was once in the computer lab with him, and he ask me to come over his computer to look at this guy. I was like, “WTF?”!! I think he will be very interested in the Playboy magazines for gay, if there is.
2. He randomly adds guys to his MSN.
Some people likes to put their MSN email in their Friendster profile. He will randomly add them to his MSN. I, seriously don’t know how to generate a conversation with a guy stranger. If I randomly add a girl, I can chat all I want. I flirt, jokes, tease… But if I were to add random guys and chat, I don’t know what to talk about. Frankly speaking, I have more girls than guys in my MSN. And, all the guys in my MSN are either my schoolmate, my ex-schoolmate, or people that share the same interest with me; blogging, computer, techs and internet.
3. He have a lot of “brothers”
I am sure this “online siblings” thing is rather popular among teens these days. Guys would usually have a lot of sisters, and girls would be vice versa. Ack, he have a lot of brothers, which kinda freaks me out.
4. He talks to his guy friend on the phone for hours
I know, girls can talk on the phone with their girl friends for hours. He can talk to a guy on the phone for hours, which totally contradicts with my style, as a straight. Like I said in #2, I don’t know what to talk about with a guy unless he share the same interest with me, or he needs my “tech support” (in computer lah, what were you thinking?).
5. He use handsome guys as his PC wallpaper.
He have problems with his computer, so he brings his CPU to my place. When I on the PC, what I see is a guy’s picture in his desktop. EW~~ Of all the guys that I know that is straight, they don’t have a guy as the wallpaper. They usually have anime (girls), race queens , stars (girls, of course), or anything BUT A PICTURE OF A GUY!!! My gosh…
6. He stores guy’s picture.
After I troubleshoot his PC, I say “It would be easier to fix it if I just format and reinstall everything for you”. Money minded me, since I charge $$$ for formats and reinstall, and he’s noob with computers, I don’t give a damn 
Anyway, he asked me to backup his pictures and MP3. When I browse through his pictures, all I see is guys picture.
7. He is interested to know one of my coursemate.
He’s from the January Batch, and I am from the April Batch. One day, he saw this guy in walks into my class, and he asked me what his name is. He seems interested. There’s so many girls in my class, since I am taking accountancy. And yet, he wants to know the name of the guy.
Whether he’s gay or not, I can’t really judge. He denies it. But I believe he is gay, it’s just that he doesn’t realise it or he scared that the society cannot accept him as gay. So, what do you think?
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July 13th, 2006 at 4:58 pm
I think its extremely important to respect the sexual rights of other people. Period
For you - don’t be scared. Why should you be? Homosexuality is not a disease. You can’t get infected with it. Nor is it a mental disorder. He just happens to like other guys. So chill. Be yourself and stop blogging about it like its some kinda problem that needs to be dealt with on a global scale. He’s gay. Deal with it.
For him - make it clear to him that you don’t swing that way. More than likely he’ll just leave you alone. But at the end of the day, reacting like its a threat is going to do nothing but make you look like a bigot and making him feel crappy. If he persists, make it extra clear its not your thing. IF he continues persisting, maybe gets agrressive - then it becomes a matter of harrassment, not that he’s gay and has a crush on you.
But keep in mind that the ‘brushoff’ is a universal thing. Even if some chick came up to you and did the same thing to you - but you werent interested in hookin’ up, you’d be scared and brush her off too. (typically)
There’s no different technique for gay people; “Dude, sorry, but I dont think its gonna work out.”
But the BIGGEST point is: DONT JUDGE HIM. Some gay people spend their entire lives living in fear that they’ll get lynched, hurled with abuse, beaten up, discriminated against. Hitler had a whole section of gay people exterminated during WW2. Guys are being murdered in the streets of Jamaica just for -thinking- that they’re gay. Gay guys get judged by their familes, their friends, governments, religious orders, and by total stranger for their sexualities. What the F**k right?
There are enough people judging - don’t you add to that too. Just accept him as a friend - IF you really are his friend.
I cruised on from PPS - its something I’m quite vocal about. Goodluck with your friend.
July 13th, 2006 at 5:19 pm
u yeahh…100% gay
July 13th, 2006 at 5:30 pm
bloody homophobic. get a life.
July 13th, 2006 at 5:31 pm
Yes, definitely! Did he like Brokeback Mountain and cry over the show too?
July 13th, 2006 at 5:33 pm
You really think you’re so hunky as to attract a gay man’s fancy?
Gays have discerning tastes.
So unless you are really really good looking, theres no need to worry about a butt assault. You should be so lucky.
July 13th, 2006 at 5:47 pm
Like Shag said - I doubt he is interested in you - if he were he definitely would not be asking you about your coursemate.
(This is the stupidest common close minded heterosexual stereotype - that all homosexuals are out to “prey” on oh so desirable straight people and basically want to screw everything that’s their own sex. So ridiculous. Like you mean, every guy in the world would also want to screw everything that spreads its legs)
And btw, it’s None of Your F*cking Business anyway.
July 13th, 2006 at 5:57 pm
Shag and IB was right.. gay have their preference too. What if he likes you? Just tell him you are not gay, period.
If the society got more people with perception like you did, off course the gays won’t want to admit they are.
July 13th, 2006 at 6:32 pm
boo: homophobic have no life? come on… you get a life too..
shag: No, like i said in my entry, “What if…”
IB: Wow. Harsh. I feel like crying
It’s none of my business, but I have the rights to write anything I want, just like how harsh you are in my comments.
Jee: True. Gays do have their preference.
I am not used to having gays around me. I don’t despise or disrespect them. He is my friend. It’s only that his gay act disgust me a little. Like I said, I am not USED to having gays around me.
July 13th, 2006 at 6:42 pm
Oh goodness.
geminigeek. sick isnt it?
I am not against Gay and I am not Gay either, but, i have my experience being asked by Gay, you know?
U just politely say no, and thats it.
Dont worry man.
July 13th, 2006 at 7:01 pm
friend, nothing wrong to friend with gay!! came on la..
WHAT IF he turn to GAY and he likes you one day!?!? (post again in your blog telling us your friend turn to gay and he love you, then we will solve the problem with you..)
since he never admit, i think you better bring some chicks for him!! that might help
dont worry, even if you turn to gay, i am sure he wont like you, how can a gay fall in love with a straight MAN?? i THINK he will love someone happily!!
i am straight, i also got gay friends, they are funny + friendly!!
come on, dont imagine too much, chicken little!
July 13th, 2006 at 7:11 pm
1. Your friend had put his trust in you.
2. You think he’s a sexual predator and who might actually eat you up.
3. You see people as worthy to be accepted or rejected depending on sex. That means you treat people as sex objects.
How old are you - 14?
If you are older, well looks like you’ve grown up to become a sexual bigot without even knowing it. Congratulations mate.
July 13th, 2006 at 7:23 pm
i think the last question to complete the whole quetionaire package would be:
asking him to detail about his past relationships.
if he started to get all ‘fake-ish’, he’s lying.
i guess when u know he’s lying, u can get a rough idea that he’s gay for sure.
then again, if he starts to get all flirty, touchy with you….
….yeah, he has interest with you man.
but if he haven’t make the first move, he’s not into you.
July 13th, 2006 at 7:45 pm
Miriguy: I am perfectly healthy. Except a little cough. X/
HeadHunter: Good idea! I am not used to have gays friend around me, which makes me come up with this entry. I guess time will make me comfortable to have gay friends.
MikeTorres: I am 18. I don’t think he would eat me up. Do you think I will still help him with his computer if I have in mind that he likes me? I am just trying to come up with a conclusion on whether he is gay or not, with all the “evidence” that I come up with. I am not saying homosexuality is wrong.
ChengSim: Hmmm… maybe THAT will comfirm whether he’s gay or not.
July 13th, 2006 at 7:50 pm
OMG!! i just realised how much people you attracted with the word “Gay”. Now me wonders if everyone was googling the word “Gay” before everyone landed here. Nope, my RSS feed brought me here so i’m different
:D
All right, that is gay enough to be gay….remind me when you start seeing him sticking to guys and start following them around like what those sisters do all the time…
July 13th, 2006 at 9:25 pm
You said
“Do you think I will still help him with his computer if I have in mind that he likes me?”
And in your article3 you said
“What if he likes me??? Oh my
July 13th, 2006 at 10:50 pm
Mike, here I quote from what I have written.
GeminiGeek says:
July 13th, 2006 at 10:57 pm
lol..that explains it
That is not confusion, its money that blinds your eyes and give you courage o_0
July 14th, 2006 at 1:57 am
Hmm, well if such a case happens be sure to make it known to him nicely, just as you would do with a girl. But of course, you’re not actually sure at this point (though evidence points strongly). Just make it be known strongly that you’re just a friend is enough.
July 14th, 2006 at 10:55 am
All those signs could lead to homosexuality, of course. But yeah, if he’s a nice fellow, why bother? As long he doesn’t make a move on you.
July 16th, 2006 at 1:17 pm
you betta beware of him
July 16th, 2006 at 7:17 pm
Oh you have done this Cherry-Berry theme… It’s a little bit…. PINK!
Maybe you are also a little bit… GAY?
I am also gay and all my friends don’t have any problems…
Juri
Sorry if my English is bad, but I am german.
July 25th, 2006 at 6:54 pm
110% gay…scary dude!!!
July 29th, 2006 at 10:05 am
he is dam straight gay man, but that is not the question you should be asking, the question you should be asking is his friendship hard to find. if you are friends wit the guy for a long time is him being gay really that serious a case to you. good friends are always hard to find, take it from me i lost a friend who has helped me thru a lot due to her gayness and now i feel like shit she doesnt talk to me now.
August 16th, 2006 at 9:50 am
Gay or not…….. U have only one life……………..Live it…….Enjoy……Pray……. and respect others………….
August 28th, 2006 at 4:12 pm
i knew him 2..
Yup,he iz A GAY ~
October 15th, 2006 at 4:05 am
Well, I have a friend who’s gay, and he really likes me a lot. Too much for my personal tastes, actually, and it is this sort of situation that makes people like me nervous. I don’t want to have to watch every move he makes, and I want to chill with girls and whatnot even if hes there or not.
He specifically asked me not to chill with girls in front of him. But hey, he wants to go out with me everyday so I feel trapped as in, he likes me, I like girls, he wants to make a move on me, I want to make a move on girls, he ends up feeling hurt, I end up consolidating him but pressing the issue that I am simply not interested, the whole cycle repeats. (yes, I know that’s a run-on sentence). Its too fucking bad for him because he has to adapt somehow, but its also too bad for me that I have to hurt his feelings. Life’s a bitch.
Ultimately to answer you: if he likes you, deal with it, but don’t treat him like an outcast. If he doesn’t like you, you got nothing to worry about.
November 18th, 2006 at 5:28 pm
I think so too!
Im gay.. and im kinda like that too
So,… err.. hehe?!
November 28th, 2006 at 2:02 pm
Yeah, he’s definitely gay.
December 14th, 2006 at 1:38 pm
Gay or not gay is not the big issue, the big issue is what he does shall not harress others.
December 22nd, 2006 at 1:39 am
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December 22nd, 2006 at 12:44 pm
OMG.. My boyfriend has a guy friend which is also very gay.. He even squeeze my bf’s ‘bird’ a few times.. I don’t wanna lose my bf…
December 22nd, 2006 at 1:05 pm
Peggy, you don’t have to worry about losing your boyfriend, if you confirmed that your boyfriend is not gay, or not a bisexual. What I meant to say is that he won’t be attracted to his gay friend if he’s straight. Stop worrying, I’m sure he’s straight enough because you are his girlfriend.
December 23rd, 2006 at 5:22 pm
Scariness.
Haha lucky my friend and I are straight. :happy: I don’t support homosexuality, but if the person’s great, there’s no reason not to be their friend if they are homosexual. Just let them know that you’re straight by constantly saying how cute a girl you know is, etc. and they’ll slowly back away from any romantic thoughts of you. 
Hope things turn out well for you.
January 13th, 2007 at 3:44 am
Hi I am a gay. I am a closeted person. I have many friends whom i have some interests, but i don’t make any advances, as i know that they are straight. I don’t think that ur friend is attracted to you. He is a gay, but is closeted like me. However, i think that he might be a good friend for you. Don’t be scared of him, if he makes any advances on you, just tell him that u are not interested in him in that way. However, i am concerned in the way u think about money while correcting his computer. I am a biology student, however, many of my friends ask me for help in computer problems. i used to format my friends’ computers at least 5-6 in a month. not for money. just to help them, because i like them, i like being with them. don’t mix friendship and money. money will come and go, but not friendships…they are really precious.
he may even help u sometimes in something.
don’t be scared of your friend, he is really good for u, i think.
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August 8th, 2007 at 4:42 pm
Hey man,
I juz wanna say that i have experienced somethin similar wit u..
I knew my best friend (josh) ever since i was like 7, we were best buddies ever since… but when we were in our teens, i kinda kept my distance frm him coz he was a lil gurly and juz 2 gay… He kinda noticed it and 2 years l8er, he came out 2 me tellin me bout who he really was and that he hoped we can b friends again… 1st i was shocked and disgusted (although i saw it commin)… then, after long thoughts, i realized like so what? so what if he is gay? so what if i was still his best friend? after all he was there 4 me 4 many years and had been a very gr8 dude 2 me… now we r still gr8 frenz… he has a bf and they r so in2 each other happily and i feel so happy 4 him 2..
RR
September 5th, 2007 at 2:26 pm
He’s is gay. That, or he is bisexual and leans 99% towards the gay side. By “gay” I don’t mean girly - that is a common misconception. Gay has 100+ definitions, but in this case it simply means your friend likes guys.
Unless you see lust and/or love in his eyes when you are hanging out, he probably isn’t interested in you. Most gay guys have the decency to not hit on guys that they know are straight. If they are unsure, they’ll drop hints, but mostly they’ll leave you alone. If they don’t, they aren’t being a very good friend to you and you should look for a new friend.
He may not be comfortable with being gay yet, so that might be why he is denying it. Also, he might not want to admit it to you. If he trusted you enough to let you fix his computer, then on some level he is ok with you knowing he is gay. Don’t get all creepily supportive on him though, because that will freak him out and possibly make you lose a friend. If he says he’s straight, you don’t have to believe him, but don’t push the issue. He’ll tell you when he’s ready.
The worst thing you could do is stop being his friend (unless he definitely has a crush on you and won’t take no for an answer; friends respect boundaries).
Good luck with your friendship, hope I’m not too late for a response.
PS: I’d appreciate an e-mail if you respond to this post.
September 18th, 2007 at 4:51 am
this is a nice topic…thanks for bringing this up gemini.. i just wonder why r there homophobic? for god sake its just normal as normal!!! so far i’ve never heard of any gay raped a guy!? so why fear!? its so unfair for them people…they facing so much fear than any1 of us…fear of rejection!!talk to any1 of them if u find them (jus like wht i did)…do not disguise them…u will see the real sight of their problem. then see whether u still stand with ur opinion or not… god bless all of us!!
November 23rd, 2007 at 1:11 am
there is nothing weird about gay!!!! we love our parter like u love ur bf!!! stop the discrimination on us!!!! it unfair, if u can get a pleasant sex from ur bf why we can ‘t do that??
why we can’t show our love to our partner??? sorry to say that!!
August 19th, 2008 at 6:47 pm
Scared? What the hell for? You should be flattered -.-
And no, gays aren’t into everyone. Do you go kissing and licking every woman you see? I don’t think so!