Be Generous or Selfish?
Don’t you think it’s hard to become human? If you are generous, you will be exploited, and if you are selfish, you will be hated. Of course, who wanted to be hated? Everyone wants to be loved, right?
If you are too generous, you help as much as you can, you are easily exploited. I think I’ve once written about giving people to copy your homeworks. Yes, I am so kind giving my friends copy my homeworks, and when I did mistakes, they blame me. Not only this homework part, but also the computer stuff. I always help them as much as I could, but they have never been grateful to me. What’s worst, bug me with problems and force me to help them although I’m not really convinient to help them. Unfair? Totally!!
What if you are selfish? People will say you are knows everything but teach nothing. Keep all the knowledge to yourself, or just in short, “kedekut ilmu” (I’m not so sure about english translation). As for me, I tries not to be selfish. I just can’t be selfish because I think expanding my knowledge to other people is a good thing.
You help them, you are exploited. You don’t help them, you are labeled as “kedekut ilmu”. And just recently, I think I found the solution, I got it from my Moral Textbook, a quote from Confucius:
If you give a poor person a fish, and he will only be full only for the day. Teach him how to catch a fish, and he will be full for his whole life.
Maybe I should just help them in the other way. I think my way of helping them is wrong.
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March 31st, 2005 at 11:09 pm
I had that problem too, I shared my knowledge, and got exploited, I refused to share, got blamed, tried to teach them…
… half of them thanked me
… the other half remained pissed that I no longer let them copy my work
It all depends on who you’re helping.
April 1st, 2005 at 2:21 pm
Ya, depend on who you help and how you help as well. Like computer thingy, you can’t help with chatting, DEMO is the thing you need to do.
Some people just don’t give the damn what they need to know, all they all is finish it as soon as possible and if possible, by you some more :fishy:
April 1st, 2005 at 10:53 pm
Hmmm, i like that point u made by quoting confusius. Can’t believe u actually opened the moral text book to read! :tounge:
April 1st, 2005 at 11:59 pm
i kinda remember the quote… my teacher is teaching using textbook ler…